Why is it hard to discover your unique talents?Part 5: beliefs and thinking patterns
If you missed the previous steps, make sure to read them before diving into this one.
Thoughts and beliefs shape our reality
Our minds have a narrow and distorted image of us and what we are capable of. Our minds hold on tightly to all the expectations, values and opinions of other people, school, society and even media, which we've absorbed since childhood. We have been told who we are, what we can be or have - and what not.
Our minds, our egos have been trained and molded to its current state since we were children. It holds all the beliefs, thinking patterns and interpretations of morality and truth taught to us.
As we grow up this problem grows along. We give up on our dreams. We settle for less than what we want and deserve. We have been conditioned to believe we are living our "destiny" and there's nothing we can do about it.
The illusion of the safe choice
We live in a world where limitations are not only accepted, but somewhat also encouraged. We learn to believe that making mistakes is weakness. Failure in our society is undesired, so we only dare to live our lives by making very safe and secure choices. Making the "safe" and "secure" choices will of course keep us from the true freedom and things we desire in our lives.
We are conditioned to believe that we are destined to go through life, not to create it the way we want it to be. That life just happens to us and all we can do is to react to whatever comes our way.
We need to recognize that we have been buying into negative thinking patterns and false beliefs of ourselves and what we are capable of in order to erase them and start honoring and expressing who we really are - to be able to start living our life in our own terms. This is also the key to self-love, self-respect, and rock-solid self-esteem.
The Invisible Subconscious Ground
False beliefs and negative thinking patterns are the biggest cause of all kinds of problems and lack in our lives. They are the expectations and limitations we start absorbing since our childhood and manifest themselves as feelings like obligation, guilt, shame, or fear. They create separation from who we truly are and what we are capable of because they start to affect the choices we make - or don’t make because we are afraid to do so.
False beliefs and negative thinking patterns are rooted deep in our subconscious (unconscious mind) and usually hide quite cleverly from us, so recognizing them can be quite challenging. Because that’s what you’ve done most of your life - and so it has become a habit. A familiar and comfortable ground to walk on.
We have accepted or learned to tolerate living with those things or circumstances which we actually want to get rid of. And through acceptance and toleration they have become our comfort zone. Because the thought of changing them feels more hard, scary, or even impossible compared to just continuing living with them.
Making new choices and taking related action based on your unique talents, your success factors, does require some discipline and effort. You’ll have to step out of your comfort zone, because that’s where all the things you want to change are lurking...
Take the Next Step in Your Personal Growth
If you are tired of living a life that does not look and feel like you, is time to gain real clarity.
In my Intentional Talent & Growth Mentoring, we use my intuitive strategy to look past the false beliefs that have shaped your comfort zone. Together, we will uncover who you are naturally coded to be, giving you the grounding strategy to break old thinking patterns and actively put your unique talents to work.
If you are ready to stop letting old conditioning dictate your potential, it's time to take action. It all starts with one honest conversation.
